Here it goes!
So, for any of you guys that don’t know much about me, I am 25 years old and I have been running my own beauty salon for 5 years now. So many people thought I was too young to be opening my own business and to be totally honest looking back they maybe had a point and there are definitely things I would do differently, but I like to believe all those mistakes and challenges I had then have helped me have the confidence and belief in myself to be where I am now.
There is no doubt I am a risk taker, some have paid off, some have spectacularly failed, but again they have all brought me to now, for anyone with a goal I would always say go for it, have the nerve and I hope to throughout this blog give as much advice as I can. I won’t claim to be right all the time, but I will be as open as I can about what worked and what absolutely didn’t! Anyone that knows me already is well aware I am an open book.
There was no question that I would go into the beauty industry, school was not for me, I tried, probably not as hard as I should have but I genuinely did struggle with the school setting. I left school when I was 16 and there’s no point in me saying any different, I never looked back. I have massive respect for anyone who stays in full time education but as I said, it just wasn’t for me.
I love what I do, I love helping people to feel like the best version of themselves and have made so many lifelong friends through my clients. I think people underestimate the therapeutic nature of a beauty salon, I know over the years our salon has been a go to for my clients when they are going through tough times and without them even realising they have saved me from plenty of dark times I have had. I know I may be biased but I have the best team in the world, the majority of my girls have been with me long-term and we have become a family, rows and all! I couldn’t do what I do without their support.
My recently rebranded salon, ‘Roisin Doherty Salons’ is a dream come true for me, so many months planning and thought has turned into a place I love to come every day and what I hope is a heaven for my lovely clients.
The personal side of my life has had its fair share of ups and downs too, my experiences are certainly not exclusive to me but there have many times over the years I have felt like the weight of the world is on my shoulders.
My childhood was mostly happy, my family are my backbone and I couldn’t do any of what I am doing without them. My parents separated when I was 8, while this has definitely affected my overall view on relationships and what I expect from people, I don’t hold a grudge or disagree with them for it. I am a massive believer that parents are just people too, they did what made them happy and I respect them for that, I also have massive admiration for the relationship they have as friends today, I think what they are and have is something all co-parenting couples should aspire to. My family play a huge part of my business as well as my childcare, they are heavily involved in the day to day running of the salon and I never allow myself to forget that everything I do would be impossible without them all.
(baby photo below of me)
On to Miss Abbie Sophia Doherty, that child is my reason for being. I realise every parent feels the same, but no words I can put in this blog can explain what she does for me on the days I feel like nothing is going the way I need it to!
Finding out I was expecting was not what I had pictured for myself, I wouldn’t change a thing now but looking back at that time in my life makes me feel a bit sad now. I had a few gynaecology problems and had actually been told that fertility was going to be an issue for me.
My relationship with Abbie’s daddy was not what I wanted it to be, I stayed expecting things to change like I know so many people do but nothing did. I had actually decided that I didn’t want to do it anymore a few days before I realised I was pregnant. As much as I hate to admit it now, the day I took the test I cried and cried, I was in such an unhappy relationship and I couldn’t help but think ‘Roisin you can’t do this’. A part of me wishes I could go back and tell the person I was then what an absolute blessing was about to come into my life. I told my parents, my mummy first, then my daddy. My daddy had made his feelings about my relationship very clear, so this was hard for me. The exact words Mummy said to me were ‘Roisin you don’t have to stay in this relationship if you aren’t happy just because you were pregnant’. I knew then that I had a massive amount of support.
My pregnancy was more or less uneventful, to be completely honest it’s a bit of a blur. I wasn’t in a good place and I threw myself into work. Before I knew it, I was days away from my due date. Abbie was born at 7.01pm on 17th April 2016. She was 6lb 3oz of cuteness. I left the hospital on a cloud and stayed in a baby bubble for the next few weeks. My relationship worries no longer mattered, I was obsessed with the tiny human that had taken over my life. Like any mother knows this bubble didn’t last long as I came crashing down not long after into what I didn’t realise at the time but what would turn into a year long battle with severe post-natal depression, that’s a whole blog post of its own folks!
Needless to say, my relationship with Abbie’s daddy did not last and I have been a single mother to her since she was 4 weeks old, there are things many people claim to know and while I will admit he is not perfect I have to also acknowledge that I am not either. I have to respect that he is Abbie’s daddy and for the sake of any potential relationship he may or may not have with Abbie in the future I will say no more than we were not right for each other and I have no ill feeling for him at all.
Fast forward to 2018, myself and the girls have settled in well to our new salon, I have met someone called Nick who is making me happier than I had allowed myself to think I would be. Miss Abbie has turned into a ball of fun and watching the world through her eyes is one of the best parts of my day. Writing this has been more therapeutic than I realised it would be, I really hope you have enjoyed reading it and such a massive thank you for even coming to have a look. I will expand on all the things I have brought up in other blog posts as well as keeping you all up to date with the salon, my mummy life and all things RD.
Love, Roisin x